Got Kindness? I don't think so...

     “Don’t ever mistake my silence for ignorance, my calmness for acceptance and my kindness for weakness.”Author Unknown

Thoughts: 

     Those who choose to put down, belittle or demean others should seriously be ashamed of themselves.  Individuals who choose this “skillful social display” have major insecurities themselves and have a false need to control others. Their narcissist personality is a master of their own mind and the world in which they live, as well as those who follow them.  The attempt of elevating themselves and lowering others is a tactic used to fool the most vulnerable of souls.   This type of self-centered loathing exudes an endorphin high that’s addiction at its best. However, underneath it all lay a lonely and miserable place only they know exist because from the outside looking in, it’s all beautiful. The drama bonfire is not a place I want to sit around and roast marshmallows.  I don’t choose to be a part of the scorching fire ring. Furthermore, those who choose to be a part of the fire ring are just as guilty as the individual leading the madness!

     I read something recently that describes a “Narcissistic Sociopath” and it goes like this: “They’ll insult, belittle, and criticize you (sometimes in a teasing /joking way), pushing your boundaries until you finally speak up. Then they use your reactions to make you seem crazy.  Within weeks, they can turn an easy-going person into a hot mess of insecurities and self-doubt.”  I find this to be so very true and have witnessed this type of person much in my walk through life.  Nobody should ever have the control over you to make you seem crazy when you speak up for yourself in truth.  Plant those feet deep into the foundation God has given you, stand strong and know you are valued and important!   

     In my outward silence, I observe much.  Observation leads to thinking, thinking leads to praying and praying leads to the attempt of understanding those who find joy in putting down others to gain what? Obviously the "payoff" is much needed attention and a twisted void filler.  This is such a super sad way to live life and a vicious cycle that continually breeds negativity and an awareness that only the owner of the bullying understands.  Adults who seek the weak to prey on in an attempt to make themselves superior is mind boggling to me.    

     If its joy you are seeking, I know where you can find it. If it’s attention you need, I know who can give it to you. If its love and acceptance you seek, I know who will accept you. If you have a void that needs to be filled, I know who can fill you, top you off and continue to sustain your need!  Nobody here on earth can give you these things and love you unconditionally! Only the love of Christ can give you all you need. And if you truly loved Him, you wouldn’t treat others the way you do.  It is very simple...love others the way Christ loves you. If you don't know how, then lay it down, let it go and let Him.  You don’t need to clean up your garbage before you go to Christ…just go and allow Him to clean it up for you.  Ask Him into your heart, make a change, BE KIND, encourage and love one another y’all!  Jodi <3